A Voice for Neli

On the morning of May 24, 2010, I arose at approximately 6:30 am to wake my son for school.  I discovered that my son was not in his room.  I did not immediately worry because I know that he loves to go for walks.  A few hours later at approximately 10:30 I called the police station when he had not returned.  I was told that he was in custody and was currently being questioned but I was not told why. I immediately told them that my son was Autistic. Although I told them this, they still refused to offer me any information.   I told them the to ensure he got his phone call.  Once he called me, I could barely hear him because his speech was very low.  The only thing I could make out was that he was attacked by the police and he didn’t mean for any of this to happen.  I still had no idea what he was talking about.

It wasn’t until later that evening that I found out about the events of what allegedly took place that morning.  A neighbor came down to check on me and said she had seen this story on the News.  Needless to say I was devastated, appalled,  livid, sad and my heart just broke. I knew immediately that something was VERY wrong, because my son would not be in possession of a gun.  My son, whom our family calls “Neli”, was jailed without bond and I was told that I was not allowed to visit him.

A school counselor from the school that he attends was however allowed to see him.  I’m very grateful for that because she has a long relationship with Neli and she is someone whom he trusts.  The school counselor was able to set up a “special” visit for me to get in and see my son a few days later.  What I saw completely devastated me.  My son was unable to speak, although he was desperately trying to.  I have never witnessed anything such as what I saw that day with him before.

My son was traumatized.  He has since been transferred to a mental hospital to receive treatment.  I have placed a link to the story below for the world to see.  How very sensational and yet sinister at the same time.  What is so suspicious about a young man sitting under a tree at the library.  The library is where my son goes quite frequently because there is a teen room there.  What made him suspicious?  Was it because he is a young black male?  Possible gun?  Why was the assumption made that he had a gun when there was no visible gun seen? Again was it because he was a young black man?  These assumptions are what catapulted the events of that day and has turned our family’s life completely upside down.

There is a story to tell.  My son’s story.  For legal reasons, I cannot disclose his side of the events that took place that day.  But the truth will come out.  The actions that were taken by the police that day were excessive in the least and grossly mishandled.  Someone says I see a suspicious black male and he “could” have a gun, while all my son was doing was sitting in the grass at the library.  And you shut down six schools and go out on a manhunt for this dangerous black man who was sitting in the grass.  Anyone reading this story can read between the lines and see that this just doesn’t add up.  This website is just the beginning of an effort on my part to get my son’s story out there, garner support from the Autism Community and shine on the injustices that took place that day.

http://www.wjla.com/news/stories/0510/738947.html

Stafford Police Department Link: http://www.staffordsheriff.com/apps/public/news/newsView.cfm?News_ID=200

I’ve included both links to illustrate that the stories are the exact same and were obviously provided by law enforcement.

A Little More About Neli

My son Neli is an 18 yr old Autistic young man. Specifically he has Aspergers and Pervasive Developmental Disorder, Not Otherwise Specified.  He attends a private day school through the county and sees a therapist weekly.  He has no friends and pretty much just goes to school everyday, comes home and frequents the local library. He walks a lot because that is his outlet. The library is where he hangs out because there’s a teen room there where he can communicate with other young adults his age. He goes to the library quite often (at least a few times a week).

Since the time we moved here my son has been having a difficult time in school.  We didn’t get an Aspergers diagnosis until the 8th grade.  He struggled with academics and we placed him in the Huntingon Learning Center for 6 hours per week to get additional help.   My son did his best to fit in socially, but everyday was a struggle for him.  We worked very closely with school administration to ensure that he was getting the assistance he needed.  When we felt he wasn’t, my husband and I went to the local school board to express our concerns.  When we complained about his educational care, we were temporarily given comfort, but it didn’t last.  When he entered high school, it became increasingly obvious that the school was unable to provide for his needs.  The area had become overpopulated and he was attending a brand new school with an average of 30 children per class and his grades and self-esteem started to suffer greatly.  This is where I noticed a marked decline in his self-esteem and I knew I had to do something.

I did some research to see if I could find a school that would better be able to serve his needs.  I found a place called Youth for Tomorrow   http://www.youthfortomorrow.org/ founded by Joe Gibbs, former coach of the Washington Redskins.  It is a residential program that caters to the needs of at risk youth, to include children with learning disabilities.  It is a very expensive program for parents to pay out of pocket, but when I contacted them, they led me to Virginia’s COMPREHENSIVE SERVICES ACT FOR AT RISK YOUTH AND FAMILIES (CSA) website http://www.csa.state.va.us/ to have the program funded for him. They directed me to my local CSA and said that determination had to be made by a Family Assessment and Planning Team (FAPT). So I requested a FAPT team meeting and the outcome was disapproval.  At this time my son was placed in a private day school, which he currently attends.  While the staff has always been very good, I didn’t feel the environment was the best for him socially.  There were a lot of kids there who had more severe disabilities that he did and he started to feel like an outcast.

After about a year he decided he no longer wanted to attend school and we suggested a military sponsored program called The Virginia Commonwealth Challenge http://www.ngycp.org/site/state/va . We though the structure would be great for him, while giving him an opportunity to get his GED. This is a great program by the way, and I’m very appreciative that they exist to help our youth for free.

At first, he excelled even winning two awards.  But as the other kids moved on to the other phases, his differences became more and more apparent.  He became depressed, took an entire bottle of cold medicine and went AWOL.  He was missing for an entire night before he was found.  My husband and I picked him up and he went to Florida to stay with his grandmother for a few months while we decided what to do next.  Again, I went back to the FAPT team with the request of allowing him to go to Youth for Tomorrow.  That was in 2009.  I was denied once again because they said he didn’t qualify.  I appealed the decision at the next higher level, however, I was still denied.  I had no choice but to return him to the private day school that he is now attending.

Through all of this, my son’s mental state of well-being continued to decline.   My husband and I have done the best we can to try and deal with it with very little resources.

Now here we are today facing my deepest fears of what could possible happen to my son if he didn’t get the help he needed in those crucial adolescent years.  I am not blaming anyone.  And there is no way to know if the outcome would have been different had our requests been granted.  The bottom line is that, there is no face for Aspergers for the average people out there.  I believe that my son is a victim.  He needs help, not imprisonment.  Now he is facing years in prison on three felony counts and I know that he cannot make it through this.  How much more must he and this family suffer before people really begin to wake up and understand this epidemic that is growing in numbers?

I am currently trying to obtain a good legal team for him.  Preferably those that understand and are sympathetic to autistic children.  I believe in my heart that the right person is out there and will turn out to help.  This is not just about my son.  Autism is an epidemic plaguing this nation and seemingly nothing is being done about it.  What’s going to happen the half a million children growing up with autism when they reach adulthood?  If average parents do not stand up and fight for their cause, they will have no future.  I am taking a stance.

I would like to get this story out to the press.  Because of this, my family and my son has been ostracized.  That’s why I believe that the type of attorney that I secure must be well versed in cases of this matter.

I’m writing this letter to get my story out and to help get the assistance that my son and family needs at this time.   Thanks for listening.

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How You Can Help

June 28th, 2010

I’ve gotten tons of emails asking how people can help with this situation. I’ve decided to start an email campaign to several major news outlets to report this story. I am taking other actions as well, but this is a way that others who are concerned can contribute. Please retweet this effort and share it on Facebook and everywhere else you can think of. Thanks to everyone for their support.

Please copy and paste the letter below and send to all the email addresses at the bottom. They are the email addresses for major news networks whom I’ve sent my story to and have been ignored. There is power in numbers.

Subject : Police Brutality, Racial Profiling Autistic Young Man

I am sending this email in on behalf of a black autistic young man from Stafford County, VA who was racially profiled, beaten, jailed, placed in isolation for 11 days and is now in a mental state hospital because of the trauma that was inflicted upon him. This young man has been falsely charged with 3 felony counts of attacking an officer and will go to jail if this story goes untold. Please read his story on the website his mother set up for him. http://www.facebook.com/l/fffdbL2q2PGhVwAd3raUkmVPI2g;www.avoiceforneli.com This story deserves to be told and this type of police brutality needs to be stopped. Please take the time out to at least contact the mother and hear her side.

Here is the petition for you to pick up this story. http://www.facebook.com/l/fffdboPe8A5M-t4wlR7srwyNFlQ;www.thepetitionsite.com/1/autism-and-racial-injustice

Neli’s website: http://www.facebook.com/l/fffdbMVgE4wmKdy2ZfR5Sv3jBzw;avoiceforneli.com/

Huffington Post coverage on the story.

http://www.facebook.com/l/fffdbGjI1Lth8P1sPdnzktyQwZQ;www.huffingtonpost.com/ken-reibel/racial-harassment-alleged_b_621256.html#comments

http://www.facebook.com/l/fffdbTsxvh0ZnCQpHlUQuE3Idqw;www.huffingtonpost.com/ken-reibel/teen-with-aspergers-arres_b_610530.html#comments

Please watch these videos.

http://www.facebook.com/l/fffdbe1kLmQ9BTZJcNOyVK138ew;www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEXVuQKVIjM

http://www.facebook.com/l/fffdbJgFvpZCeHN5E0Xg-rF4Qxw;www.youtube.com/watch?v=KBHKQRF9eNM

Thank you for your time and attention.

anderson.cooper@turner.com,
david.doss@turner.com,
kay.jones@turner.com,
david.puente@turner.com,
gabriel.falcon@turner.com,
inquiries@drgailsaltz.com,
catherine.vojdik@turner.com,
bfarkas@ap.org,
pramsey@ap.org,
dabernathy@ap.org,
jamey.graydon@turner.com,
jason.meucci@turner.com,
samantha.hayes@turner.com,
pjenkins@freelancestar.com,
kepps@freelancestar.com,
lhutchison@freelancestar.com,
ellie.jostad@turner.com,
dean.sicoli@turner.com,
elizabeth.yuskaitis@turner.com,
andrea.amiel@turner.com,
clark.goldband@turner.com,
jchandler@nbc12.com,
ssvihlik@insidenova.com,
mrose@insidenova.com,
bpotter@insidenova.com,
pgraham@starexponent.com,
armaoj@washpost.com,
aranam@washpost.com,
meridak@washpost.com,
browndl@washpost.com,
braniginw@washpost.com,
nortonm@washpost.com,
boorsteinm@washpost.com,
butterworths@washpost.com,
brauchlim@washpost.com,
benningv@washpost.com,
gmicklos@wjla.com,
blord@wjla.com,
dpatrick@wjla.com,
hshannon@wjla.com,
alex@news8.net,
jmeyer@wgms.com,
mmcmearty@wtopnews.com,
bmadigan@wtopnews.com,
jtaub@wtopnews.com,
nhager@wtopnews.com,
kslack@nbc29.com,
nbennett@nbc29.com,
lvogt@nbc29.com,
hotnews@minglecity.com

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Neli Tells His Story

June 26th, 2010

I have been searching my heart, mind and soul trying to figure out why this has happened to my son. I feel so powerless as a mother. We are supposed to protect our children, yet, I couldn’t save him from this. I’ve been living in sheer torture since the events of 24 May 2010. Now my son, who had a future is locked away due to police harassment and brutality. And in spite of my best efforts, I have not been able to get any news outlets to bring this story to light. I pray every day and I hope every day that we will be delivered. Neli is holding on, but each day he is gone like this, I’m losing a little part of him.

I know people care, I really do and I’m so thankful for that. But it seems that the people who have an opportunity to truly affect a change simply cannot connect enough to this story to understand why it needs to be told. So while I haven’t updated, I am still in the progress of getting Neli an attorney. On Monday I will be going to the U.S. Justice Department and filing a formal complaint because of what has happened to Neli.

Neli’s story may never be told on a national level, but I want all of Neli supporters to see and hear him. Below is a video of Neli talking about what happened to him on 24 May and the 11 days following. Please watch and spread the word.

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I Wish Someone Could Fix Me

June 15th, 2010

I feel the pain of my child. I spoke to him today. He is not well. I feel so hopeless to help him. My pain is so immense that I can’t even put it into words. Waiting on a breakthrough.

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First and foremost I would like to thank each and everyone that has taken the time to read my story and offer their support and prayers. Thank you for your donations and helping me get the word out.

Neli has been in a state mental hospital about 2 1/2 hours away from me for approximately one week now. I’m very grateful that he is no longer in solitary confinement in a jail and that I can visit with him. However, with each visit I have noticed that he is starting to lose hope. While I am always glad to see him, it’s always bitter sweet. The sadness in his eyes penetrate deep into the core of my heart. I have tried to mask the deep pain that I”m suffering to see him in this state from him, but our souls are connected, so I know that he can feel it. Please continue to pray for my son each day that he will be vindicated and be brought home where he belongs very soon.

I have started an online petition to get his story picked up by major news networks. All I need is 1,000 signatures. Please take a few moments to go to the site and sign the petition. http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/autism-and-racial-injustice

And I will close this post with a song that I often listen to when I start to lose hope. We can make a difference. Thanks to all of Neli’s supporters.

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